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First Call of the Morning…Please help me find my son

 National Suicide Prevention Week, September 10th to 16th 

First Call Campaign header image-telephoneThe first call of the morning was a crisis. A  frantic parent from out of town. She was concerned for the safety of her son.   She repeated over and over,

“I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what to do.”

She had spoken with her son who ended their conversation stating that he was going to kill himself.  Then, to all intents and purposes, he disappeared.

“Please help me find my son before it’s too late.”

Whilst Nuçi’s Space is not a crisis center, from time to time someone will reach out to us when they simply do not know where to turn,  it may be way outside of our work area. In this instance, I am unable to assist other than to say, contact the police. However I am also a human being, and as such there was no way I was going to let her waste valuable time having to explain everything all over again in an attempt to get assistance. Especially when she was unable to even think and speak coherently. Instead,  I started making the needed calls.

We talked on and off for most of the morning until she was a little calmer. Everything that could be was in hand, and we were just waiting…

The police found her son.

He was in a hotel room.

He was intent on ending his life and so was taken to a hospital.

Four days later I got to meet him. He chose to come to Nuçi’s Space to get set up with a network of support systems including a Support Group, a Doctor, and a Counselor. We made up a crisis plan to ensure he knows what to do as and when things happen.  Between us all, we will be able to get him back on track and he can put this depressive episode well behind him.

I asked him what had happened, what was it that brought him to such a low point.

He said that he had been in a depression for over six months and it just wouldn’t let up. During this time he did nothing to improve his mental health. He was miserable and so isolated himself from everyone he knew. Meanwhile, anxiety kicked in,  working with his depression to disable him further. Eventually, he lost his only source of income and was in danger of loosing his home.  Each day he went further and further down as his situation became more and more difficult and he became more depressed.

He was angry with his mum for not acquiescing to his wishes.  She had said she would only keep sending him money if she could come and see that he was ok. His depression had robbed him of the ability to think with clarity or with logic and reason,  and as far as was concerned his mother and brother hated him, were trying to control him. He was worthless, friendless, unloved,  a burden to all who knew him and his only course of action,  to make things easier for everyone was to end his life.

Just four days had passed, and he was astonished how real his thoughts and the pain were and how he believed,  that what his depressed self,  was telling him was logical and reasoned. How ridiculous it sounded now he was in good health.

How easily he could have ended his life, over something that quite obviously wasn’t real. Or true.

How to Help

When you think someone is going to harm themselves and they go missing, call their local police office. If a person can be found the police have the resources to find people quicker than anyone else.

When someone you know is at risk, you can find resources here. If a crisis occurs, call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 Deaf and hard of hearing 1-800-273-8255  En Español Nacional de Prevención del Suicidio 1-888-628-9454.  You Matter  is a national young person lifeline.

You can avert a crisis by seeking help earlier.

To take control of your mental health find a therapist just enter your location and hit search.

For further information, The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention is a  vital national resource.

Please help us, make a note of these resources and share them when appropriate.

You can call us here at Nuçi’s Space during office hours Monday through Friday 706-227-1515  or  E-mail Lesley

The First Call of the Morning Campaign highlights a regular start to the day at Nuçi’s Space but more importantly offers, guidance, and resources for anyone going through or living with such issues and problems.

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We actively help people get the resources they need when they need them. You can help us impact people directly by sharing this information.

Vision

Our vision is to end the epidemic of suicide and to inspire a culture free of the stigma attached to brain illnesses and its sufferers by supporting a community-wide effort that focuses on education, prevention and access to appropriate treatment.

Mission

Our mission is to prevent suicide. With a focus on musicians, Nuçi’s Space advocates for and helps to alleviate the suffering for those living with a brain illness and fights to end the stigma of mental illness.

To accomplish our mission, Nuçi’s Space maintains a health and resource center for musicians as a safe space to seek support and guidance, provides access to affordable, obstacle-free professional care, actively participates in treatment and educates about awareness, prevention and the risk factors of brain illnesses.

Values

Nuçi’s Space, and all those who represent the organization, will champion a culture of kindness and support to all in our community and maintain the highest standards of caring in all that we do through Nurturing | Understanding | Compassion | Insight.

Peer Support

 

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After a brief hiatus, we have rebooted our Mental Health Peer Support group. 

You will find us in our meeting room here at the Space.   We get together every second Wednesday 6-7 PM. It is free and open to anyone needing peer support.

As a group, we focus on ourselves. We work through our feelings and help support each other through problems and life’s challenges. Sharing our skills and experience, therapies and proven coping mechanisms.

While counseling or medication is often a keystone to wellness it rarely has magical cure-all properties when you have a brain illness. Especially when that illness manifests depression, anxiety,  or both,  and sometimes as life-threatening symptoms.

We have to incorporate many strategies and avenues of support.

From creating healthy life patterns and routines to improving ourselves by incorporating positive and healthy lifestyle changes, habits and choices,  we have to work constantly to stay level and keep depression and anxiety at bay or to stop ourselves drifting into a depression. Alone this can be almost impossible but together we have a much better chance.

We are a diverse peer lead and peer-driven group.   Because of this, our group is able to develop and grow in a way that benefits both the group and its individual members to the fullest. If the group decides to meet more often, we can do that, if the group wants an educator to give a talk , we can do that.

The greatest thing about a peer group is the simple and effective support another individual can give.

Is depression or anxiety is a symptom of your condition? Then a peer group might be the extra support you need.

Together we are stronger.

Please click on the convenient button if you would like to donate to our mental health programs and services.

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And….The winner of the 2018 Nucipass is JEFF G. from Braselton, GA

Thank you ALL for your support!!!!! #nucipass

THE NUÇI+1PASS IS A RAFFLE TO WIN A YEARLONG PASS FOR YOU +1 TO THE BEST MUSIC VENUES IN ATHENS & ATLANTA. SIMPLY PUT, YOU ARE ON THE GUEST LIST (PLUS ONE) FOR AN ENTIRE YEAR TO 16 LIVE MUSIC VENUES IN GEORGIA. 100% OF THE PROCEEDS FROM THE RAFFLE GO DIRECTLY TO NUÇI’S SPACE, A NONPROFIT ORGANIZATION SUPPORTING THE MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH OF OUR MUSICIANS WITH A FOCUS ON ENDING THE EPIDEMIC OF SUICIDE.

PARTICIPATING VENUES
ATHENS                                 ATLANTA
Georgia Theatre                    Variety Playhouse
40 Watt Club                         Terminal West
Caledonia Lounge                Center Stage
Live Wire                               Smith’s Olde Bar
The Foundry                         Buckhead Theatre
Hendershot’s                        Eddie’s Attic
Cox Capitol Theatre*         The Loft & Vinyl
Red Clay Music Foundry

*Macon

Annual Giving Letter

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SECRETS

Last week I had the good fortune to reconnect with a high school classmate whom I had not seen in 54 years! She had read A Beautiful Here and got in touch. She said that she had had no idea that my home life was troubled. And . . . of course, I had no idea that hers was also. We were together a lot – working on our HS newspaper and taking the same classes. But that was only seven or eight hours a day. At the end of the school day, we each returned to a much less happy environment. If only we had known about the other’s pain, we could have commiserated. At the time, I was sure that I was the only one in my all-girls’ Catholic high school with an alcoholic father and divorced parents. I was ashamed to reveal anything about my home life.

When we met for lunch, my friend and I talked about what kept us sane through those difficult days. It seems that books and school were escapes for both of us. Although we wanted to go to college, neither of us could afford it. Years later, after nursing school for me and work for my friend, we both graduated from college, married and became parents. She went on to become a teacher and then principal of a high school. We both agreed on the saving grace of having one person in our lives who identified and encouraged a potential in each of us. For me, it was Sister Gratia who convinced me that I had a talent for writing and I should pursue it. She gave me hope. Not a small thing.

All these years later, I think that if I had been open and not so secretive about my home life, I would have uncovered a whole community of support. I know that there were other classmates who hoarded such secrets. We needed one person to open up and give permission to share our pain. As a young teenager, I didn’t understand that the pain I was hiding was actually part of the human condition.  Each of us in varying degrees has things we think we need to hide. Secrets. I wasn’t the “only one.”

At any given time, any one of us can be afflicted with unbearable pain for ourselves or for someone we love. I’m an adult now and I have no secrets, no shame. As you know, I use my family and our experiences to speak out loudly to dispel the stigma which so unfairly clings to brain illnesses. We’ve never kept it a secret that our son and brother suffered from depression and took his own life. It’s secrecy regarding these illnesses and suicide that contributes to the stigma. There is no shame in being depressed. The only shame is in not being able to get treatment.

I urge you at this special time of the year to hug those you love. Throw open those doors and let the winter wind whisk away all those secrets which threaten to keep us apart. We need each other.

As some of you may remember, this Thanksgiving will be our 21st without Nuçi. Yes, we still miss him terribly. We always will. So . . . in his memory and in the memory of everyone we lost this year, as you sit down to that big turkey dinner, please raise a glass and toast the love we have for one another and the love we have for those we’ve lost.  May it be perpetuated.

I cannot close this letter without thanking you for supporting Nuçi’s Space over the years. It is your kindness and generosity that allows us to keep our doors open and we are most appreciative. We know the value of your hard-earned money and we take seriously the trust you extend us to spend it wisely. I can assure you that your donations have literally helped to save lives. With your help, we will continue our mission. Because . . . without you, there is no us, no Nuçi’s Space.

Nuçi’s mom, Founder of Nuçi’s Space and Author of “A Beautiful Here”

You can send an email directly to Linda Phillips at linda@nuci.org

Help A Friend

We know the holidays are tough for many.  Be aware and available for friends and loved ones during this time.  We at Nuçi’s Space are here for you, your friends and your loved ones.

Peace be with you all.

Nuçi’s Space: 396 Oconee St. 706-227-1515.

Come in for coffee, to rehearse and to be in a safe space free of judgement.  We are here for you.

Georgia Crisis and Access Line: 800-715-4225

Trevor Project Lifeline: 866-488-7386

Hope Line Crisis Line: 877-235-4525

Hearing Impaired Life Line- TTY: 800-799-4889

Text “CONNECT” To 741741

You are not alone.

First Call of the Morning…SOS The Loved Ones Left Behind

 National Suicide Prevention Week, September 10th to 16th 

blog header img telephoneThe first call of the morning was difficult to hear as he tried hard to control his sobbing.

His wife  took her life three years ago and he hasn’t been able to grieve. He still breaks down , when alone, sobbing like it was the first day, in company he just wants to punch people. His head is still in a fog,  he has unfocused thoughts and he blames himself for her death.

I told him of our SOS Group

Survivors of Suicide group meets the 3rd Wednesday of every month, is free of charge and open to anyone who has lost a loved one to suicide. I explained what he could expect from our group and he said “That’s exacly what I need.”  He sobbed  “People who understand .”

As the next meeting was 3 weeks away I suggested that he was welcome to come on by Nuçi’s Space at any point before the meeting and we could talk. He came by right away,  such was the depth of his pain. After talking about all manner of things I asked him if he had ever considered counseling as a way of helping  to cope with his situation. We talked about how it would work and the benefits it might hold. He decided that counseling, in addition to the SOS group for support and understanding would be a good way forward.

We set up a course of treatment to help with his stress, anxiety, anger  and depression,  brought about by many factors including loss,   with our team of counselors partnering with us at Family Counseling Athens. He has his first appointment in hand his first group SOS went well. He was quiet but he opened up toward the end of the meeting and now has hope he can heal.

Left Behind

When someone takes their own life,  we tend to focus on that individual, not seeing the mayhem and trauma family members, friends and loved ones, who are so often overlooked, now have to live with.

To find an SOS group or to find a therapist in your area, just enter your location and hit search.

If you need help or information after the loss of a loved one you can find resources here and  you can call us Monday through Friday 706-227-1515 or E-mail  lesley@nuci.org

Siblings and close family members are often at risk directly after a suicide. Young people , close friends  boy /girlfriends etc.  are regularly overlooked and statistically  more likely to attempt themselves than any other group. If you are affected by suicide or  if you, or someone you know is in danger, you can find resources here.

If a crisis occurs, call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255   Deaf and hard of hearing 1-800-273-8255

En Español Nacional de Prevención del Suicidio 1-888-628-9454.         You Matter  is a national young person lifeline.

You can avert a crisis by seeking help right away.

To take control of your mental health find a therapist just enter your location and hit search.

For further information, The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention is a  vital national resource.

Please help us, make a note of these resources and share them when appropriate.

 

The First Call of the Morning Campaign highlights a regular start to the day at Nuçi’s Space but more importantly offers, guidance, and resources for anyone going through or living with such issues and problems.

Suicide Prevention Campaign Donation Form

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We actively help people get the resources they need when they need them. You can help us impact people directly by sharing this information.

Vision

Our vision is to end the epidemic of suicide and to inspire a culture free of the stigma attached to brain illnesses and its sufferers by supporting a community-wide effort that focuses on education, prevention and access to appropriate treatment.

Mission

Our mission is to prevent suicide. With a focus on musicians, Nuçi’s Space advocates for and helps to alleviate the suffering for those living with a brain illness and fights to end the stigma of mental illness.

To accomplish our mission, Nuçi’s Space maintains a health and resource center for musicians as a safe space to seek support and guidance, provides access to affordable, obstacle-free professional care, actively participates in treatment and educates about awareness, prevention and the risk factors of brain illnesses.

Values

Nuçi’s Space, and all those who represent the organization, will champion a culture of kindness and support to all in our community and maintain the highest standards of caring in all that we do through Nurturing | Understanding | Compassion | Insight.

 

First Call of the Morning…Campaign

 

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September 10th is World Suicide Prevention Day and the first day of  National Suicide Prevention Week.

During National Suicide Prevention Week we add our voice to the many hard working, ‘loud shouting’ organizations working with and along side us;  helping to raise awareness about mental health, brain illness, the importance of early diagnosis,  fighting against the stigma and understanding their important roles in the prevention of suicide.

The more we all pull together, the more people we reach, the more likely someone who needs us is able to reach out before it’s too late.

But what are you actually doing?  What’s all this First Call malarkey?

The First Call of the Morning has been a positive and effective way of telling our story, and now, as it is Suicide Prevention Week we are gearing this campaign specifically, to the prevention of suicide.

For the duration of National Suicide Prevention Week, we will be advertising two posts,  using and paying Facebook to reach a much larger community with the hope of engaging people and preventing suicide. We hope you will support us and help share the information.

While all First Call posts preserve the caller’s anonymity, all of these calls actually happened within the last couple of days,  more to the point, these kinds of calls happen regularly at Nuçi’s Space. The two we are featuring are focused on losing a loved one to suicide and concern about someone in danger.

While details will be minimal and avoid triggers this is not a clean and tidy, open and shut case study. This is real life, it’s messy, it’s raw and it’s ongoing for everyone going through such turmoil.

If someone can relate on a personal level to the content and if they need help or know someone who needs help, they will from the content itself,  have the ability to access everything they need right then and there.

Cool, I’ll look out for them and share them.  How will I recognize them?

The campaign will begin, Monday, September 11th and carry on through to Friday 16th. We will be using this image and the following hashtags for the duration.

#firstcallofthemorning  #suicideprevention  #SOS  #nucisspace

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The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention is a  vital national resource.

You Matter is a national lifeline for young people.

Suicide Prevention Lifeline.org 

Nacional de Prevención del Suicidio

Please help us and support us, make a note of these resources and the resources to come and share when appropriate.

You can call us here at Nuçi’s Space during office hours Monday through Friday 706-227-1515  or  E-mail Lesley

The First Call of the Morning Campaign highlights a regular start to the day at Nuçi’s Space but more importantly offers, guidance, and resources for anyone going through or living with such issues and problems.

 

Camp Amped – 10 Years Later or One Community Many Lives?

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2017 has proven to be another memorable year for Nuçi’s Space and Camp Amped.

Not only were we able to host two full sessions this summer, we were also able to celebrate the 10 year anniversary of this astonishing program.

With a line-up of current and past Camp performers, the celebration brought out many smiles. Attendees were able to reflect on forgotten Camp photos and be in marvel at the talent and growth of so many Camp musicians.

From a bird’s eye view, Camp Amped is year round. The planning and preparation is always in rotation. Once spring CAAS finishes, summer preparations begin, and when summer is over Fall CAAS begins. And the cycle continues on and on, sometimes overlapping. But there was something special about 2017 that reminded me how fortunate it is to be a part of a program that has truly enriched me with a fuller life.

 

There were days that I spend hours working on camp registrations, responding to Camp donors or submitting grants. And then there were days during Camp that I get to spend hours just listening to the next generation of Athens musicians. It is those days when I felt most fortunate. I love being a support to these kids who are just trying to figure out how to use their passions and talent in the most positive way.Jackson EMC Donation image

 I have a general idea of who each camper is before camp even starts. This is based on their videos, auditions or applications, but I really begin to know each one of them when we spend hours together in this little blue building. So what does that look like for me… I can tell, especially for new campers and instructors, my role is not as obvious and sometimes I just become the person who makes sure everyone is safe and most importantly, fed!Camp Amped Chalk -Sam

 

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But as soon as the clock strikes 9am during a summer session I start doing a mental roll call. Remember, these are teenagers so 9am on a summer day is EARLY. We have a few different activities in the morning but the most popular one is Shauna’s angelic, meditation, singing bowls. Like most summers, we had a few late campers who would try to walk in as quietly as possible while trying not to make too much noise with their amp or guitar case. I would just throw them a smile and exhale to myself that everyone was accounted for.

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Everyone soon realizes the complementary relationship that Dan and I have are two connecting pieces of the Camp Amped puzzle.  His role as the Lead Instructor and mine as the Camp Coordinator is a hand in hand partnership that is as unique as the program. And so when I’m having a not so good day, he turns to the campers and says to them “Debbie’s taking hugs today”.  It’s the kind of kindness and love you can only find in a family. And that’s what we are here, a family.

 

 

On top of our normal summer Camp Amped program, we had the task of putting on a very special event to celebrate 10 years of Camp at Nuçi’s Space. And who better to take on this task than the campers themselves. The challenge was grand and the tasks were numerous but I knew when I reached out to these two young ladies to take the lead of this momentous event it would be amazing.

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Camp Amped 10 th imageDeylah (’07, ’08) and Mamie (’13, ’14, ’15) not only met the challenge but exceeded my expectations.

It was a night filled with talents on every level. Campers who had just met the year before rocking out their tunes to campers who have grown up together playing like old souls. An event on this level can only be accomplished with tons of support. As in the past, our community did not fall short. Whether it was to fill the library with food or make every performer be seen and heard, every person who supports Nuçi’s Space and Camp Amped is one more piece of the Camp puzzle.

For more information on Nuçi’s Space and Camp Amped please check out the article Rock n Roll Survival Camp published in the Bitter Southerner and written by Mamie.

Camp Amped 10th Year Anniversary Performers: The Voltures, Freaky Styley, Jordan Rhym, Jacob Conley, Clarie Campbell, The Dookie Brothers, Ethan Crump, White Rabbit Collective

 

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What I learned in 2017 that I hadn’t noticed before is that it doesn’t matter if you were in Camp for 1 summer or 7, if you are a veteran instructor or a newbie, or if you’ve been the Camp Coordinator for 3 summers or 7, once you are in the Nuçi’s Space Camp Amped family, you’re in it for life. Thank you to everyone, especially those who were in the program before I came to the Space and still allow me to be connected to them!Camp Amped 10th Anniversary image

Thanks got to all our 2017 Supporters: James and Betty Huffer Foundation, Jackson EMC Foundation, The George Link Jr. Charitable Trust, Third Phase, Georgia Music Foundation, Ruby Sues, Thrasher Photo+Design, Colm O’Reilly, Adam Payne, Jason Huffer, Lesley and Maurice Cobbs, Big City Bread Art Collective, Full Moon Recording Studio, Amplify, Studio 1093, Chase Park Transduction, Apex Signs, Big City Bread, Chick-fil-A, Clocked, Mama’s Boy, The Grit, home.made, Last Resort Provisions, Publix, Pulaski Heights BBQ, Ted’s Most Best, Viva Argentine Cuisine, White Tiger, Keba Grill, Daily Co-Op, Waffle House, Paul and Sara Samuelson and Your Pie

Carl Lindberg memorial scholarship donors, Herb Guthrie Memorial Scholarship donors, Daniel Marler Memorial Scholarship donors, Allen Owens Memorial Scholarship donors, Casey Nettles Foundation donors, Devin Wiles Foundation donors

For more  information about our Camp Amped and Youth Programmes contact debbie@nuci.org

Text -Debbie Watson.  Photographs -Bella and Lesley